Selfishness vs. Selflessness.

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Let’s just talk about love, the most complicated thing to feel and explain.

We have never learnt to be contented with what we have.

In love, we may claim to be simple, needing only attention and that slight bit of touch. What do we really need? Do we ever let down our pride and ask for it?

They say, knock and the door it shall be opened to you, ask and it shall be given. Who actually asks for what they exactly want? They mask it with sweets, hence the term “sugarcoated words.” It doesn’t have to be lies, or cover-ups. They are words, to hurt you less, they are words, to make you feel better, to lessen the pain or stress.

We need attention, lots of it. Needy of attention from your partner isn’t all wrong, neither is being too needy, right. But do we ask for it? We don’t. We tend to put our loved ones first, doing what we think is best for them. We’re all selfish by nature. We give them what we think they need, we give them what we think is best for them, we do things that we think will benefit them. But just how much do they understand and see things from our point of view and appreciate our actions?

They would also think the same way. Most think otherwise, they want more than what their partners would be willing to give, or even sacrifice. They want what they want. They don’t compromise, and that’s human nature too. Again, we aren’t all wrong, neither are we right. We’re selfish. We’re never contented.

Just how much are we all going to sacrifice till our partners are satisfied? We all mean well, we all want what’s best for our partners, we want them happy. But just how long can we tolerate such selfishness of theirs? Just how long can we last till we’re all worn out, tattered and broken? How long can we withstand the tortures of time? How much are we willing to give up, just for their temporary bliss?

For all we know, they may just be indulging in temporary pleasures, the fun of mind-games, the attention we give them when we’re so overly-infatuated with them.

And at times like these, what do we do besides wait? Waiting for a chance to be proven wrong at our assumptions. Waiting to be happy. Waiting for our actions and efforts to be reciprocated. Waiting for them to give their all just like we did. And why? Because we find it hard, or almost impossible to leave.

Waiting, is a torture. Especially when we don’t have a goal to work us towards to. The truth lays before us, yet we don’t admit to it. We don’t want to leave our comfort zones, we don’t want to lose what we think is important to us, we don’t want to start a new phase in life, getting to know someone all over again just because we’ve failed. Getting to know someone new is another kind of torture that everyone is afraid of. We all know the pain that comes in the aftermath. We know what we’re afraid of – let downs, disappointments, anger, jealousy and insecurities. We are humans, we feel.

What if our selflessness is what our partners see as selfishness? And what they perceive of their selfishness is what they deem as selflessness? We will always be trapped, confused and we won’t ever be contented with what we know. We, will always be selfish.

We, are all humans to begin with.

“No matter what we breed, we still are made of greed" – Imagine Dragons, Demon.

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